5 splendid life Lessons from Spiderman Homecoming

Movies not only entertain us but also teach us.

Among all Spiderman movies, the Spiderman Homecoming played by Tom Holland is my all time favorite. The reason is that I feel more connected when watching Tom as a Spiderman. Even though he is a superhero, he is an avenger, it always feels like a boy next door.

On top of it being just beyond a great movie, here are some important learnings you can take from it.

Lesson no 1: Don’t search for strength outside you. It’s within you.

The conversation between Ironman and Spiderman is the most iconic moment in this movie.

Peter Parker: I’m nothing without this suit.
Tony: If you are nothing without this suit, then you don’t need this suit

Spiderman has his natural power. However, he trusted more on his suit than him. He realizes that his strength lies on the suit and not him. Then there comes the Ironman who teaches the most important lesson not only to him but also for most of us.

If you are nothing without this suit, then you don’t need this suit, says Iron man. If Spiderman trusted his suit more than him, then anyone can become Spiderman. Anyone can wear his suit and get the power associated with that suit. But why do Tony choose Peter Parker? Because the trust which he kept on Peter Parker is more than Spiderman. His suit is just extra equipment, an additional strength and not his only strength.

This moment when Ironman take off his suit made him realize his inner power, his real strength and thereby making him more mature.

What do we learn here?

Never look for strength outside. It’s within you. Trust you and not others.

Lesson no 2: Never search for happiness outside.

The above conversation can be looked into another angle also. You may feel that you are very happy when you with your girlfriend or boyfriend. Or with your parents or friends. But what if a situation occurs that they are not going to be part of your life from tomorrow.

Will your life stop?

Will your happiness just fade away?

No. Right. Still, life will go on.

People always tell us that your life is in your hands. In a similar way, your happiness too lies in your hands. Never make any external factors which will make you happy.

Your friends, parents are just add-ons which will double or triple your happiness. But that doesn’t mean that only if they are there with you, you will be happy and if not then you will be sad.

No. Remove that thought from your mind now.

Never search for happiness outside. It’s within you.

Figure out yourself what brings you happiness. What makes you laugh. This will make you more strong, more caring and more matured not only for you but also to the people associated with you.

When you are happy, the people associated with you also will be happy.

Lesson No 3: Patience is the Key.

This below conversation happens at the start of the movie when Tony stark hand over the new Spiderman costume to Peter.

Parker: So, to become an Avenger, are there like trials or an interview?  

Stark: You just don’t do anything I would do, and definitely don’t do anything I wouldn’t do. There’s a little grey area in there and that’s where you operate.

Peter was eager to join the Avengers. And Tony clearly knows that he is not ready. So he tells him indirectly to operate only on the little grey area. In other conversation, Tony also tells him to be a Friendly neighborhood Spiderman. It means that he want Spiderman to just look into smaller work, help people only when there is in need and not to deal with a bigger threat. The reason behind these words is that Ironman knows that Peter Parker is still not matured enough to expect the consequences.

But Peter didn’t took this point seriously. He was constantly messing up the things. He was struggling hard to learn about his costume. And finally, we know what happens because of his carelessness he broke the ship into two.

He was eager to do things and to help people. But he forgets that Patience is the key. And a good leader is not who rush forward to complete the task but the one who thinks about the consequences after a job and be ready for it.

In all our life too, there comes a moment where we all are eager to do something in our life. People always say that if you want to start anything new, start it now and not tomorrow. Of course, it’s true and I agree with it. But before jumping into action just think for a moment whether you are ready for it.

What is the point in signing a million dollar deal for constructing a building, if you don’t have any idea about construction?

Today all the biggest Man-made disaster are mainly due to starting the action even they know they are not ready.

I have figure out my passion for graphic design after 25 years. And I try to gain some amount of confidence and quitted my 5 years core job. Then for six months time, I patiently upgrade my learning towards graphic design, did a few projects, upgrade my creative skills and then started looking for the job. Why didn’t I rush from day 1 to search for the job? Because I know that I am not ready for it. I am not confident enough for the job on the 1st day.

Even in this movie, there is a sequence where Captain America speaks in front of television and below shown are his words.

Hi, I’m Captain America. Here to talk to you about one of the most valuable traits a student or soldier can have. Patience. Sometimes, patience is the key to victory. Sometimes, it leads to very little, and it seems like it’s not worth it, and you wonder why you waited so long for something so disappointing… How many more of these?

So, Patience is the key. Until or unless you are confident with yourself, don’t jump into action.

Now Swami Vivekananda quotes strike my mind i.e

Take up your idea. Devote yourself in patience. Struggle for it. One day Sun will rise for you.

Note the mid words. “Devote yourself in patience”. Patience is important. You may eager to get it done as soon as possible. But never be in a hurry if you have no confidence in it.

If you are not ready, don’t do it.

Lesson No 4: Be better than your Role model.

(Most Iconic. Each dialogue from Tony, teach us a lesson)

Tony Stark: [after the boat incident] What if somebody had died?
Peter Parker: I was just trying to be like you.
Tony Stark: I wanted you to be better. I’m gonna need the suit back.
Peter Parker: But I’m nothing without this suit!
Tony Stark: If you’re nothing without this suit, then you shouldn’t have it.

I have already spoken the lesson which we learn from the last two lines of this conversation. But there is also one more point to be noted. “ I wanted you to be better” . Wow! What a line it was.

You all have someone as a role model. And it is always good to have a role model. But never try to be them. Just try to better than them. We all know Dr. Abdul Kalam has kept Swami Vivekananda as a role model. But Dr. Kalam didn’t become a priest like Swami Vivekananda. He shapes his thoughts with Swamiji quotes, mold himself and then he tries to improve his life.Finally, he becomes better than Swami Vivekananda.

In a similar way, you are free to get inspired from as any person in the world. But in the end BE YOU. You shape your ideas and thoughts from them. But try to incorporate within your thoughts and make yourself better.

Always mold yourself to be better than your role model.

Lesson No 5: Teenage- Time to Understand & Listen to your Kid.

Tony Stark: Previously on “Peter screws the pooch”, I tell you to stay away from this. Instead, you hacked a multi-million dollar suit so you could sneak around behind my back doing the one thing I told you not to do.
Peter Parker: Is everyone okay?
Tony Stark: No thanks to you.
Peter Parker: No thanks to me? Those weapons were out there and I tried to tell you about it, but you didn’t listen. None of this would’ve happened if you had just listened to me! If you even cared, you’d actually be here.
[Tony Stark steps out of the suit to reveal that he is in fact there]
Tony Stark: I did listen, kid. Who do you think called the FBI, huh? Do you know that I was the only one who believed in you? Everyone else said I was crazy to recruit a fourteen-year-old kid.

Note this dialogue. “None of this would’ve happened if you had just listened to me!”. Previously in this movie on several occasions, Iron send only his suit to have a conversation with Peter. And that made Peter utter these words.

Teenage is most crucial in everyone life. That is the age where mistakes are made. You get to know lot many things and now with fast-moving technology things may even become worse. But as parents, it’s your duty to understand your kid and before that Listen to your kid. Don’t rush forward to comment. It will make a situation worse. Whatever biggest mistake he does try to listen to him and understand his feelings. And then make him realize the mistake.

The sign of a good parent is making your son/daughter to realize his/her own mistakes. That realization is called Self-Realisation. And if this self-realization happens at the Teenage, then it stays forever in his/her entire lifespan. And most importantly spend your most valuable commodity i.e Time with your Kid. Make your kid feel like you are there for them in all situations.

So, as parents, you should be clear that like you, your kid was also bound to do a mistake. Don’t rush to beat or harass him. Instead, understand and listen to him. That is what will make you good parents. And also a Trustworthy parent.

Do you feel your kid will share his feelings for the second time if you burst out? Just Think.

Finally to say, beyond the amazing visuals, cool dialogues between all the character, the conversation between Ironman and Spiderman is most loveable.

I am one among the 1000’s who cried when Spiderman get disintegrated in Avengers infinity war. This bonding between them makes me feel more connected to this movie. Dear, Tom Holland and Robert Downey Jr, I Love you from bottom of my heart.

And a special thanks to Jon watts and his team of writers from wonderful, pleasing and more connected dialogues.

Every superhero movies teach us some lessons. But in this movie, a superhero like a Spiderman has few lessons to learn. That is what made this movie more connected.

That’s it. Thank you, guys. What moral lessons did you take away from this movie? Leave a comment below!